Meditation for June 4th, 2016
9 Reasons Why People Don’t Like You
Silence Isn’t Golden
Not saying anything at all is the quickest way to being seen as a stuck up snob. I know, you’re misunderstood and a introvert, but actually that is no excuse for not saying hello, responding to phone calls or texts and even simply joining in a conversations. People judge you on your actions, not your intentions or your ‘social handicaps’’, so you’ll just have to learn how to converse. Yes, you’ll have to lie a little when it comes to small talk or acting interested in something you know nothing about, but not participating is just disrespectful.
It’s Always That Way or Never That Way
Maybe you moved to a new place and you want to make friends. You do what you always did in your last home, but this time not one of them seems to want you to be their best man. That’s because you are not meeting anyone halfway. Instead of learning what you can do to assimilate to the new culture, you just brood in your apartment muttering about cliques and ‘cool’ people.
Nothing is ever black and white and if people aren’t seemingly jiving to your energy, don’t blame them, try and see what you can do to change the way you’re making impressions. No one is stuck being a way.
You Just Don’t Respect the Clock
People are busy. They have a schedule that only allows them so much free time, and as most people know people love doing nothing in their free time. If you are late, don’t show up or shoe up unannounced expecting people to be on your schedule, then you are making people mad. No one likes a flake.
I believe we bombed Iraq over Saddam Hussein being late to a Reagan dinner.
Drama Is For Theatre!
If you’re always going through things and seemingly are always at odds with people that used to be your friend and shit talk people that aren’t there, then you might just be dramatic. No one wants to hear it and wants to be a part of it. Maybe if you’re someone who just likes to watch houses burn, then maybe you’ll be fine with a dramatist, but the normal person wants no part of it.
The sad part is if you are actually going through hard times that are against your power, like health and financial issues, people will also jump ship fast.
The Preacher Should Be a Cool Comic Book or TV Show
You really think you’re something. You have all the answers and you don’t like it when people are wrong in your presence. You are the one that actually says, “I don’t care if people don’t like me.” The problem is you have to be around people sometimes, so why wouldn’t you shed your immortal chains and slum with us mere mortals for a few minutes. Maybe even laugh at a joke instead of finding ways to insert your vast knowledge on people who just want to have a good time.
People want to know they’re on equal grounds with someone. People don’t want to know stuff. They want to be ignorant unless they take their own time to learn something. Very few humble people will actually ask if they can learn from another person, but no one likes a drive-by teacher.
Scarface
“That’s a nice scar, but check this scar out!”
The upmanship and storytelling can be fun once in awhile, if everyone is in the mood, but no one likes someone who has to tell a story every time someone else says anything. No one likes to say what’s going on in their life, and how much they are struggling, just to be told that someone when through something worse years ago. You have taken away the person who is having their experience now’s experience. You have robbed them of finding support and comfort by being told what they are going through isn’t important or worthy.
People also don’t like hearing stories about the time none of them knew you. I’m sure you were interesting at one point of time, but I can only see you now.
You Blame
Nothing is your fault. You are a victim of circumstances. You are always trying to make a case why someone else is at fault and how you tried to do the right thing. No one is falling for your bullshit. Everyone has a one or two time deal where luck just isn’t on his or her side, but at a certain point you have to take responsibility for your actions.
It’s not the people around you’s fault that you are aren’t liked, it’s you!
You’re A Klingon
You are always around. You are so scared of being alone that you manically try to be around people all the time. You suffer from Missing Out Disease and you will always try and be at the event that is most promising even at the cost of someone else. It’s okay to be alone or to be bored once in awhile.
Debts and Collections
It isn’t the easy $5 you owe someone, it’s the debt of time, support and maybe the one time you said the meal was on you, but people believe that they are owed a great debt and if you start to wander off to other groups of friends, finds a partner that they spend a lot of time with, the debtor will become irate that they aren’t getting their debt paid back. People hate to think they owe a debt, especially if it’s an emotional debt.
Don’t give away anything that you aren’t afraid to never see again.