Cracked Pot Meditations – Not Your Friends Anymore

Meditation for April 6th

Not Your Friends Anymore

When you get into a relationship, you and your partner get to meet each other’s friends. Sometimes you come from the same friendship group, so you don’t necessarily have to spend time with different groups, unlike a couple who come from different circles. It is important that your friends like the people you date, and that you try to impress your significant other’s friends. 

As time goes on, your friends become your partner’s friends too, and sometimes your friends like your partner better than you. While you are together, that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, and it’s nice that there won’t be any awkward social situations because the friend group likes your partner.

You get invited to social events – as long as you bring your date. You are told how funny and great your S.O. is, and stop hearing how funny and great you are. Sometimes your partner hangs out with your friends without you. 

Then you break up and you can’t relax with your friends without hearing about your ex. Social events get weird because, historically, you were the one originally invited, but now your ex has been accepted as gospel. You start to find out they had parties without you. 

Take this as a compliment. You can pick a very good person to date, but you were just a lousy partner. Your ex is a gift to your circle of friends, and you get to learn how to be uncomfortable or alone. 

You can try to get along with your ex, but your ex may start dating one of your friends, so you may find yourself on the outside looking in at your old circle of friends. 

Prayer

Cupid,

I was at work,

And on my break was perusing Facebook.

I saw that my significant other went to the beach with all my friends. 

I didn’t know. 

Now I feel like I’m missing out. 

I used to go to the beach with my friends. 

Now I’m looking at pictures of my partner having a great time. 

Now I’m at a party. 

Now my partner and my friends have inside jokes I’m on the outside of. 

I tried to be my normal funny self,

But my friends were too busy laughing with my date. 

I’ll wait in the car.  

Amen.

Craft

Pick a person who complements you without making you obsolete. Make sure that the person you bring into your social circles isn’t as smart or as funny as you. An introvert with no interesting history is the best bet. 

Goal

Remember that you lose your friends when you lose an awesome significant other. Date below your station.