Meditation for March 29th
Why You Are Mostly Unhappy
Some people are just happy. They don’t let the small things bother them the way they bother other people. Some people have a harder time being happy. They search and search, but nothing long-lasting gives them the lasting effects of happiness and serenity. It eludes them. There are several reasons why some people are mostly unhappy.
If you look like you are going to fail, we’ll treat you better. If you look like you are going to fail, we will either leave you alone or try to fix you. If you look like you will succeed, we will give you more room to make mistakes; we will assume you will succeed in the long run. We will believe you more if we think that you are confident. If you aren’t confident, then everyone around you will think you will fail.
Life isn’t fair. Some people have it better than others. Actually, a few people are the best, so the odds that you are going to have it good are low. Asking life to bring judgment to those who cheat or get away with things is begging for nothing. Some people have to work hard to get a leg up, and even then, something will knock them back down. Life isn’t fair, so stop waiting for that to change. People who grow up in a rich, successful family will have easier access to happiness.
Luck isn’t real. Well, it is, but it is a fickle mistress, so expecting a great opportunity to fall in your lap without any work is just creating unhappiness for yourself. If you’re extremely well-liked, if you are good-looking, it’s more likely that someone will decide to hand you a dream job or opportunity. A lot of people work very hard to earn what they have, even if they are not recognized or compensated, so why do you get something for nothing? They won’t get ahead because they aren’t good-looking or well-liked. Depressed yet?
A unifying fellowship is a great way for someone to draw happy power from everyone. Not everyone likes you. Even at a party with mostly your friends, there will be one or two people who can’t stand you. You can try all you want to change those people’s minds, but usually, if someone doesn’t like you, they don’t like you. We can’t make everyone on Earth like us, so trying to do that probably isn’t the key to happiness. Making other people happy only sacrifices our own joy.
What’s worse than someone not liking us is them being indifferent to us. I personally would rather someone hate me than be indifferent to me. It is hard to find happiness when we aren’t perceived. A feeling of anonymity is depressing because we feel invisible. We want to be noticed.
Being corrected or having someone disagree with your opinion will lead to unhappiness. Guess what? People have thousands of different experiences that don’t parallel yours, but are just as valid. Surrounding yourself with people who share the same view as you is completely idiotic, and you don’t deserve happiness. People who are friends with those who have different viewpoints will actually learn something. When we are surrounded by “yes” people, we will find that encroaching differing opinions will seem like the end of the world and a surprise.
Being completely prepared to fail is setting you up for failure, but if you succeed, you will be so stoked. Just like being confident, you are sure you are going to succeed, but if you don’t, you will be so bummed. Stop being so focused on the outcome and do what’s in front of you. Besides, focusing only on outcomes also speeds up time.
If you just had a better job, a better home, better running shoes, or a better outfit, you would be happy. Guess what, jerk? People with nothing are happier than you. You can just be happy and not have to have anything. If your needs are being met, then you should be grateful. If you aren’t getting your needs met, then you need to reevaluate your life because you are fucking up somewhere. Learn to budget, asshole.
Unhappiness comes when you think you can change someone or something. The idea is struggling with thinking that if these people did things the way you think they ought to be done, then you’d be okay. You’re the one who has to change. If you keep running into assholes all day, you might be the asshole.
Basically, it is your fault you aren’t happy. Yes, you may have depression, but depression is a lot different from being completely unsatisfied with your life. Go to bed earlier and stop watching so much TV, playing so many video games, or just falling into the Internet rabbit hole. It takes work to be happy.
Prayer
Hotei,
I am tired of being unhappy,
But things get in the way of that. the kind I’m used to
This pizza isn’t like the kind I’m used to where I’m from.
People, “Where do you say things like where I’m from?”
These people I just met don’t really know where I’m from,
So every day I have to remind them.
People don’t understand what I’m saying and writing on Facebook,
And getting really upset with me!
I’m not saying this, I’m saying that!
No!
I MEAN THIS YOU DUMBWIT!
Why are people unfriending me?
They don’t make bagels right here.
They don’t make tacos right here either.
This person just posted something wrong,
So I’d better correct this.
NO! I DON’T MEAN THAT, I MEAN THIS!!
GOD! YOU GUYS ARE SUCH TOOLS!
Most everyone is an idiot,
Why don’t people want to hang out with me?
I’m smarter than most people,
Why don’t people come to me with advice?
Most people are boring,
Why don’t people invite me to events anymore?
Most people need to be taught,
Why don’t people want me to teach them?
Why do I keep feeling misunderstood?
Comus,
God of revelry.
I am lying in bed,
Wishing that I could be happy.
I can remember one time I was happy.
I was in Mexico,
I had someone that I loved,
Who was hot, smart, funny, and fashionable, and my friends were jealous of me,
I had money,
I had a sweet car,
I had a nice computer,
I had a nice loft in a nice part of town,
The barista knew my morning drink by heart and was happy to see me,
The bartender knew my night drink by heart and was happy to see me,
I was healthy,
I was well dressed,
I had a dog,
I had a mustache – and the girlfriend loved it!
I had a 55” LCD TV, cable, all the streaming services, A PS4, and an Xbox One,
I knew all the right people,
And, I put stuff in my hair, and it didn’t look overdone.
But then I lost the girlfriend,
Then the company went under,
Then I had to get rid of everything to keep afloat,
And now I can’t be happy until I have all those things again.
Please make it happen.
Amen.
Craft
There are everyday things you can do that will make you happier. If you try a f, ew of these suggestions I swear you will find a little more happiness in your life.
Get a pet – dogs are the best for happiness because cats want you to die or are indifferent to your existence.
Appreciate things – Thank around and say, “That thing is nice.” Try to fake it if you have trouble. See what other people always love and say you love it too. Things that people like: sun, sports team winning, sun sets and sun rises, flowers, well landscaped yards, a guy getting kicked in the balls, a person falling through a skylight on to a table covered in fine china and an old couple trying to enjoy a nice dinner, a person tripping and falling in slow motion, a person on a first date sneezing, misty mossy forests.
Light something on fire – fire makes everyone happier.
Steal something important to someone, take something sentimental. Help that person look for it.
Making fun of someone – trying to make fun of someone and trying to get other people to join you.
Talking shit about someone behind their back – You can even be meaner if that person isn’t there, so that your imagination and creativity can really be used to cut a person down.
Seeing a successful person fail – nothing better.
Being better than someone – Just being slightly better at something than someone else is a true blessing. Getting credit for being better even though you aren’t is even better.
Goal
Stop needing the planets to align and your outfit to be perfect to be happy. You can be Gandhi with nothing. All Gandhi needed was a sheet to wear and a young girl to be happy, so why do you need more than that? The only thing getting in the way of being happy is you. You are not being good enough, that’s what it is.
Try to be mediocre, and you won’t worry about anything anymore.